Monday, June 04, 2007

The Bug & I

Life is good. In general, really, really good. I am still riding the high of the amazing auction on Friday which raised an insane amount of money for a most deserving family. We celebrated with graduates all weekend long. Swam in pools. Watched movies. A really, really, good life I have.

The only problem with my really, really good life is that Brad and I, most unusually, have been at war.

We rarely fight. Rarely. And when we do, it's usually over and done with in twenty minutes. We have our everyday annoyances, obviously, but it usually takes something major to bring us into battle.

All weekend long, among our celebrations and swimming, we have been AT BATTLE. Full on WWF style fighting. Without the punching. Or the leotards.

The obvous question is why? What are we fighting about? Something he did? Something I did? Something huge and substantial or a million different things?

I have no idea.

Which is why I thought it appropriate to take stock for a moment of why I married this man and all the things I have to be grateful for.

First and foremost, there's the obvious: he is hands down the best father I know. It doesn't matter if he's exhausted or has a thousand other things to do, he ALWAYS drops everything to be with our kids. And they love him dearly. I bet each one of them would name him as their best friend. It's so fun for me to watch him be with our kids because it's the most natural job in the world for him. He was born to love children.

Second, he is an amazing husband. He works hard at his job but is always ready to do dishes or throw in a load of laundry. He never complains about it and his help is so appreciated. But aside from that, he gets me. He knows when to give me my space and when to force me to talk it out. He knows that I will give everything I have to our family but still desperately need my girlfriends and time away. He spoils me. He watches chick flicks. He lets me paint my house up like a rainbow. He gets me.

I woke up this morning ready to continue the battle. (I am one stubborn chica.) But I hauled myself out of bed and met Heather for an early morning swim and I felt so good, so blessed and good, that I knew I needed to step out of the ring and surrender. What's the point of fighting when there is so much fun to be had? And celebrating to do? And love to throw around? And life to share?

I love this man. I love him in ways I still don't completely get. But I don't have to because we get each other. And what a wonderful life we have.

Go find the one who gets you and let them know.


Nan said...

you took the words out of my mouth. Sometimes you can just get bugged and you need time to just chill, then you come back and are ready to be silly in love again.

Marilyn said...

BEAUTIFUL post Karen.

P.S. you were totally awesome at the auction! Thanks!

Tharker said...

You and Brad are such great examples to me. You're right, you do get eachother. Perfectly. You're a great wife Karen!

The WWF style minus the leotards cracked me up by the way!

Heather said...

You crack me up!

Perfect post, I'm glad you worked it out.

Michele said...

Sometimes Brad bugs me too...but, he does talk to me for hours on the phone so, I too forgive him his faults. Mass love.

sdodson said...

The people we love can make us more frustrated than anyone else. I've been there too. It seems like we go in waves for a while. Thanks for the post.

Melissa said...

What a great post! I hope your hubby reads your blog so he can see this :)

krisnkrew said...

Gosh you could've fooled me. You didn't look mad at all this entire weekend. I feel like I saw you a lot. Church, auction, graduation. Anyway, this is good for me to read since I think that Jack and I are the only one's that argue. Why do I think that, I don't know. But I'm glad to hear that other people still love each other after a big war. You guys do look happy together!

Brooklet said...

I liked how you were so honest in this post- and I love the perspective you put in it.

Sometimes it just takes me a couple of days of being stubborn before I allow myself to put things in perspective.

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